I need a CHEAT DAY! I have tried every diet: all meat, no meat, eating twice a day, eating 6-7 times a day, no food just juice, no juice just water. Seriously.
What I’ve learned from new diets and lifestyle trends
I have done it all and at this point I treat my body as a science experiment when I approach a new diet or “life style” trend. My newest venture is Whole30® and I am entering week two of the four-week commitment. I love these type of challenges; I always learn a few things about myself and this diet is no exception.
I have limited discipline, and I don’t care. I’m 36 and have two little boys, two different jobs, and a husband in the Fire Service. If I feel like I need a piece of dark chocolate in the first week of my newest diet endeavor, I’m going to eat it. Shoot, I drank two Deep Eddy Lemon Vodka drinks with my best friend for her birthday on Day 2! I’m not missing a celebration of a dear friend. Of course I could have just had soda water and lemon but I didn’t WANT to do that. I’m a big girl. I can make these decisions and still be healthy and stick to the diet the rest of the time. This leads me to my next discovery.
I AM ALLOWING GUILT to keep me from feeling successful. I find myself doing it in many facets of my life…Mom Guilt, Wife Guilt, Work Guilt, Diet Guilt, Workout Guilt, I could go on. If I don’t workout enough, feed my kids a cupcake with Red-40, double book my calendar, or eat peanut butter and honey when it’s forbidden on my newest diet, I hold myself hostage.
Mom guilt, work guilt, diet guilt, wife guilt. I hold myself hostage when I feel the guilt.
I create this self-inflicted wound and continue to remind myself of the “long-term” damage I have done. Am I alone here? We have enough negativity in this world now. We don’t need to be our own worst enemy. I am giving the big middle finger to self-inflicted guilt and I invite you to join me. Let’s stop beating ourselves up and start celebrating the good stuff we do every day.
I am giving the big middle finger to self-inflicted #guilt & I invite you to join me.
Support and Encouragement
WE HAVE TO LIFT EACH OTHER up with love and support not just in diet and fitness, but in life. I have found a small group of people who I need. They sit on the Board of Directors of my life and hear the deep, hard, powerful things that are real – my problems and dreams. These people have the same ethics and beliefs and ultimately care about who I become as a human. I need them and if you have just one person in life to lift you up, you are probably doing better a lot better than most.
Judith Shulevitz reports in this study that one in three Americans over 45 claims chronic loneliness. That is not okay and we have to make a change towards face to face, real relationships where we show vulnerability. Don’t have any good, close friends? Make some! Find a church and volunteer, join a club, find a small fitness studio like barre3 or a CrossFit gym and make new friends who are like-minded.
The Facebook representation of yourself and your friends is just that, a representation. I didn’t post a video of me screaming at my kids this morning and neither did you. Let’s get back to walks with friends, coffee talks, wine, and juice (if you are on Whole30®). Let’s be transparent and connect. And then when we have a cheat day on our diet, because you and I probably will, we will have someone there to say, “It’s really okay! Did you enjoy it? Don’t worry, tomorrow is a new day!”